181. KISS AGAIN! PART 8B DOES YOUR TRAIN OF THOUGHT JUMP TRACK (181)

Just because my perception is my reality does not mean that my perception and reality are the same.


I have reason to believe that misperception is the ornery, little critter that causes too many relationships to be tossed in the trash.

Knowing that defensive pathways are too narrow minded to get a bird's eye view of the bigger picture, I tunnel toward objective pathways in hopes that as the narrowness of my views expand, facts, which had caused me pain, may be seen in a new light.


Ah Ha! moments, which clear confusion out of our minds, do not take place until narrow minded thoughts are replaced by facts that straighten the twists out of the truth—the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

If we don’t have a clue as to when we’re in denial or what we’re in denial about then how can we stop misperception from hurting loved ones as well as ourselves? 


Well—the one thing we can do is stop being too smart for our own good.

In short, we can choose to open our minds to this fact:
Our brains are hard wired to believe that we know more than we do.

Once we accept that fact, laymen can choose to do what scientists do—which is to learn something new, day by day, little by little, about the ways in which our positive and negative attitudes have shaped up.

If positive and negative attitudes direct our thoughts and if our thoughts influence our decisions, and if every complex instrument needs tuning up, from time to time, then might that not be true of an instrument as complex as the brain?  And in lieu of a tune up, isn’t it likely that one’s attitudes, perceptions, thoughts and decisions may be out of kilter?

So, what if this theory (concerning misperceptions piling up until two people are seriously off track) is the key to unlocking the door, behind which lies the missing puzzle piece as to why certain relationships seem to go south?

Each time I muster the courage and humility to examine my psyche, I come to ‘KNOW’ more of my character traits in depth.  Each time insight hits and another puzzle piece pops into place, the ‘bigger picture’ changes, and my self-perception expands, again.  As self perception expands, I wonder if other vulnerabilities may have created long standing misperceptions, which are still in serious need of change, today.


Please don't be surprised if you see that last paragraph turn up, again ...
As for now, back to Joseph, because I'd like to share a fact that had been blocked from my conscious memory for many years ...