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2002
In retrospect, Mom's question: “Annie, what makes all of this so important to you, now?” pushes a button that opens a door in my brain, where information, soaked in, pours out, as though all on it's own! I mean, if knowledge is power and if teachers share knowledge concerning their field of study and if my field concerns the acquisition of listening and speaking skills then in answer to Mom's question, here's a brief summary of that which poured out of my mind about the subject of communications coupled with self empowerment ...:
2002
In retrospect, Mom's question: “Annie, what makes all of this so important to you, now?” pushes a button that opens a door in my brain, where information, soaked in, pours out, as though all on it's own! I mean, if knowledge is power and if teachers share knowledge concerning their field of study and if my field concerns the acquisition of listening and speaking skills then in answer to Mom's question, here's a brief summary of that which poured out of my mind about the subject of communications coupled with self empowerment ...:
“While studying family communications, I became fascinated by the fact that much of what we're taught to believe does not make sense. *In fact, society contradicts itself so often that it's not unusual for a smart heart to absorb as much mixed messaged nonsense as common sense.
I'm writing in hopes of inspiring people to listen to each other's personal needs, based in differing view points, with a greater degree of open minded attentiveness, because we tend to learn something new, every day. Just as learning requires patience, open minded attentiveness depends upon listening respectfully by embracing an attitude of humility.
Since humility is the opposite of egocentricity, I coach myself and others to sit our egos in time out chairs while engaging in mutually respectful discussions, concerning conflict resolution. For example, I gave my children permission to respectfully suggest that I take time out to reclaim my line of control when my frustration gets loudly over heated with them. (More about that another time)
I’m writing about the subtleties of egocentric power struggles, which create complexity of thought at every level of society: Power struggles, which mess with clarity, undermine harmony, professionally and personally, at every stage of life.
I’m writing about insecurities that cause people to offer love defensively rather than showering loved ones with generosity of spirit by asking questions that offer the benefit of the doubt.
I'm writing about personal experiences, showcasing what happened when some of my close friends leapt toward judgmental conclusions, based in negatively focused assumptions ... causing me to grow distant from those whose underlying attitudes continue to be as unhealthy as that.
I'm writing about distancing with an attitude of forgiveness, thus ensuring that I strengthen without absorbing bitterness, because bitterness and peace of mind don't mix.
*I’m writing about consciously emulating our parents’ admirable traits while learning to recognize their unconscious attitudes of negativity, which may have soaked into impressionable minds during childhood.
Annie, I need examples of that.
Okay. That's easy. I've absorbed your gift for making friends and Dad's enthusiastic zest for life. I'm happy to emulate those traits. I also watched Dad's anger flare as soon as he felt frustrated or fearful. Upon observing that trait within myself, I chose to develop The Line Of Control. And in the aftermath of Dad's death, I've watched you separate from people of your own age ...
While Mom mulls over my answers, I go on ...
I plan to offer examples of peer pressure, which continue to influence our decisions at every stage of life.
*I'm writing about hot spots of insecurity, because discontent breeds contempt for viewpoints that differ from our own.. *I mean, think about it, Mom, isn’t it in your best interest and mine to name and tame traits that repeatedly result in self-defeat?”
As Mom answers with down cast eyes and a silent shrug, I choose to respect her decision not to attend the senior center, near her condo, where 'old biddies' congregate to play bridge (which she loves)'.
2014
Mom's attitude, concerning old age, left her vulnerable to loneliness over the next several years ... and as one change leads to another, loneliness catalyzed the chain reaction, which eventually created the unfathomable chasm that evolved between us. Thank goodness, insight into the main cause of that chasm continued to recharge my determination to successfully bridge that gap before my precious mother had passed ... but that's a whole different story, concerning family communications, which will unfold down the road ...
I’m writing about the subtleties of egocentric power struggles, which create complexity of thought at every level of society: Power struggles, which mess with clarity, undermine harmony, professionally and personally, at every stage of life.
I’m writing about insecurities that cause people to offer love defensively rather than showering loved ones with generosity of spirit by asking questions that offer the benefit of the doubt.
I'm writing about personal experiences, showcasing what happened when some of my close friends leapt toward judgmental conclusions, based in negatively focused assumptions ... causing me to grow distant from those whose underlying attitudes continue to be as unhealthy as that.
I'm writing about distancing with an attitude of forgiveness, thus ensuring that I strengthen without absorbing bitterness, because bitterness and peace of mind don't mix.
*I’m writing about consciously emulating our parents’ admirable traits while learning to recognize their unconscious attitudes of negativity, which may have soaked into impressionable minds during childhood.
Annie, I need examples of that.
Okay. That's easy. I've absorbed your gift for making friends and Dad's enthusiastic zest for life. I'm happy to emulate those traits. I also watched Dad's anger flare as soon as he felt frustrated or fearful. Upon observing that trait within myself, I chose to develop The Line Of Control. And in the aftermath of Dad's death, I've watched you separate from people of your own age ...
While Mom mulls over my answers, I go on ...
I plan to offer examples of peer pressure, which continue to influence our decisions at every stage of life.
*I'm writing about hot spots of insecurity, because discontent breeds contempt for viewpoints that differ from our own.. *I mean, think about it, Mom, isn’t it in your best interest and mine to name and tame traits that repeatedly result in self-defeat?”
As Mom answers with down cast eyes and a silent shrug, I choose to respect her decision not to attend the senior center, near her condo, where 'old biddies' congregate to play bridge (which she loves)'.
2014
Mom's attitude, concerning old age, left her vulnerable to loneliness over the next several years ... and as one change leads to another, loneliness catalyzed the chain reaction, which eventually created the unfathomable chasm that evolved between us. Thank goodness, insight into the main cause of that chasm continued to recharge my determination to successfully bridge that gap before my precious mother had passed ... but that's a whole different story, concerning family communications, which will unfold down the road ...
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