In recent posts, I chose to skip
From my sons at eight and six to eighteen and sixteen
I did that to illustrate this point:
Knowledge offers leadership power, meaning that
Knowledgable leadership is empowered to inspire
A family to develop a whale sized portion of problem-solving skills :)
By the time I'd reached those child-raising years
When any thought of controlling teens causes parents
To shake with fear of failure ...
This deeper truth had been absorbed by my mind:
It's NOT a parent's job to control the behaviors of teenagers
It IS a parent's job to role model well practiced, self disciplined
Problem-solving, solution-seeking techniques
So as to carve out a path that makes sense for youngsters to follow
And common sense suggests that the most practical place
For parent and child to work toward carving that path is at home
Then, as a bonus, kids grow up and take those skills out into the world :)
You see, generally, the young follow our lead much more often than
We consciously know ... (Pat-a-cake/hear it, say it/See it, do it, etc.)
Sooo ... if you see a trait in your child that makes you frown ...
Check your mirror to see if monkey-see-monkey-do
Is mirroring that which he or she sees emanating from mother ...
Father or a third adult who shares your home ...
For example, that third adult who shared our home when I was a child
Was my Grandma Ella, whose mindsets were exceptionally strong
I'm writing, today, to suggest that one does not assume the mantle of
Successful leadership easily
Successful leadership must be earned before followers follow freely
I'm writing, today, to suggest that the same human spirit that
Rebels, naturally, against domination may be inclined to follow
A leader, whose mindsets expand in quest of bigger pictures that
Take everyone's needs into consideration when conflicts erupt
I'm writing to suggest that
No matter your age or the ages of your loved ones ...
Whether they are babes in arms, tots, pre-teens, or adults ...
It's never too late for each of us to re-examine limited mindsets
In hopes of re-shaping highly valued relationships gone south
Every post I write suggests that leadership must lead itself
Toward developing positively focused mind sets in hopes that
Others in the family may watch the wisdom inherent in
Positive focus performing acts of magic in terms of negotiating
A peaceful environment where
Unmet needs are openly addressed and mutual respect reigns supreme
Every post I write suggests that each family is
In need of a positively focused, solution-seeking
Instructional guide, versed in mutual respect, for this reason:
Once the rules of the road have been tossed out the window
Head-on collisions cause heart ache, repeatedly, for all who care ...
As a result of absorbing solution-seeking plans
Our family has learned how to detour around
Locking horns, over long
This line of reasoning does not suggest a parent must
Role model perfection throughout life ...
we all have unmet needs that create situations
Causing us to color outside the lines
Each time I color outside the lines
You'll see me search to figure out why I feel the need
To bend a rule that feels too constricting for personal growth ...
Each time I watched my sons drawing their own lines
I came to see the wisdom in developing
Expansive mindsets, which serve to guide
All ages to embrace attitudes that lean toward
Negotiating a sense of mutually respectful, peaceful co-existence
If the members of a family are led by leadership that
Consciously recognizes the need to exchange
Dominating attitudes of 'me vs you' for attitudes
That embrace the art of negotiating a long lasting sense of peace
Then the young are more apt to use most of their brain space
For resolving conflicts, leaving less space available for
Rebelling against autocratic pressure
Though it's true that the very young mind is most easily reshaped
I came to see how our Sanity Saving Plan proves beneficial
At every age because emotional conflict disrupts
Peaceful co-existence throughout every stage of life
Just wanted to be sure to offer up these insights
As food for thought, right now ...
And having done that ...
I'm guessing that tomorrow's post will describe
A scene that took place the second (and last) time that
Two teen aged bulls locked horns over use of
Man's most coveted toy: THE CAR
From my sons at eight and six to eighteen and sixteen
I did that to illustrate this point:
Knowledge offers leadership power, meaning that
Knowledgable leadership is empowered to inspire
A family to develop a whale sized portion of problem-solving skills :)
By the time I'd reached those child-raising years
When any thought of controlling teens causes parents
To shake with fear of failure ...
This deeper truth had been absorbed by my mind:
It's NOT a parent's job to control the behaviors of teenagers
It IS a parent's job to role model well practiced, self disciplined
Problem-solving, solution-seeking techniques
So as to carve out a path that makes sense for youngsters to follow
And common sense suggests that the most practical place
For parent and child to work toward carving that path is at home
Then, as a bonus, kids grow up and take those skills out into the world :)
You see, generally, the young follow our lead much more often than
We consciously know ... (Pat-a-cake/hear it, say it/See it, do it, etc.)
Sooo ... if you see a trait in your child that makes you frown ...
Check your mirror to see if monkey-see-monkey-do
Is mirroring that which he or she sees emanating from mother ...
Father or a third adult who shares your home ...
For example, that third adult who shared our home when I was a child
Was my Grandma Ella, whose mindsets were exceptionally strong
I'm writing, today, to suggest that one does not assume the mantle of
Successful leadership easily
Successful leadership must be earned before followers follow freely
I'm writing, today, to suggest that the same human spirit that
Rebels, naturally, against domination may be inclined to follow
A leader, whose mindsets expand in quest of bigger pictures that
Take everyone's needs into consideration when conflicts erupt
I'm writing to suggest that
No matter your age or the ages of your loved ones ...
Whether they are babes in arms, tots, pre-teens, or adults ...
It's never too late for each of us to re-examine limited mindsets
In hopes of re-shaping highly valued relationships gone south
Every post I write suggests that leadership must lead itself
Toward developing positively focused mind sets in hopes that
Others in the family may watch the wisdom inherent in
Positive focus performing acts of magic in terms of negotiating
A peaceful environment where
Unmet needs are openly addressed and mutual respect reigns supreme
Every post I write suggests that each family is
In need of a positively focused, solution-seeking
Instructional guide, versed in mutual respect, for this reason:
Once the rules of the road have been tossed out the window
Head-on collisions cause heart ache, repeatedly, for all who care ...
As a result of absorbing solution-seeking plans
Our family has learned how to detour around
Locking horns, over long
This line of reasoning does not suggest a parent must
Role model perfection throughout life ...
we all have unmet needs that create situations
Causing us to color outside the lines
Each time I color outside the lines
You'll see me search to figure out why I feel the need
To bend a rule that feels too constricting for personal growth ...
Each time I watched my sons drawing their own lines
I came to see the wisdom in developing
Expansive mindsets, which serve to guide
All ages to embrace attitudes that lean toward
Negotiating a sense of mutually respectful, peaceful co-existence
If the members of a family are led by leadership that
Consciously recognizes the need to exchange
Dominating attitudes of 'me vs you' for attitudes
That embrace the art of negotiating a long lasting sense of peace
Then the young are more apt to use most of their brain space
For resolving conflicts, leaving less space available for
Rebelling against autocratic pressure
Though it's true that the very young mind is most easily reshaped
I came to see how our Sanity Saving Plan proves beneficial
At every age because emotional conflict disrupts
Peaceful co-existence throughout every stage of life
Just wanted to be sure to offer up these insights
As food for thought, right now ...
And having done that ...
I'm guessing that tomorrow's post will describe
A scene that took place the second (and last) time that
Two teen aged bulls locked horns over use of
Man's most coveted toy: THE CAR
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