Ever see two young bulls face off in a meadow?
Me either :)
Though I've never witnessed that scenario
I have watched two teens lock horns over who would get the car
And who would call a friend for a ride on a Saturday night
Needless to say this stand off occurred right after
Younger brother held brand new driver's license in hand
So, how did insight into our problem-solving plan resolve a classic sibling conflict?
Well, I asked my time-tested, well-practiced sons to calm their reactions by
Choosing to take an immediate time out on the spot and listen up
Once their attention tuned out every discordant noise in their heads
Here is the train of thought that we three tuned into, chugging out of my mind:
Sharing the car mirrors sharing a toy except for this difference ...
If your argument continues, we can't put the car in a closet
What we can do is to not allow the car to leave the garage
In that case, you'll both need to look for rides until this argument resolves
So—if that consequence doesn't appeal to you then
Please go into one of your rooms and
Make good use of your think tanks to brainstorm a solution
Then when you've agreed upon who'll get the car, this time
I'll look forward to hearing how
A pair of positively focused attitudes prove, once again, that
Two heads (on the same wave length) are better than one
Within a few minutes
Barry and Steven had resolved their conflict to the satisfaction of both
And as most of this scenario took place
In the absence of parental supervision and with little ado
I can't for the life of me remember who took the keys
And who called a friend for a ride on that particular night ...
But then, the particulars are not what matters most in today's post ...
What matters most is the fact that two teen aged bulls
Chose to pull in their horns, pull out attitudes, based in common sense
And upon making good use of problem solving skills, which
Proved so habitual that their conflict resolved in record time
All was well that ended well, on that particular Saturday night
And as a bonus, I can't remember my sons fighting about the car, again :)
Uhhh wait ... On second thought ...
There was one time when all three of us
Had reason to dive a bit deeper into our think tanks in hopes of
Pulling out a plum of a solution that kept the peace ... Not
For just one night but for the next two years ... and beyond :)
Me either :)
Though I've never witnessed that scenario
I have watched two teens lock horns over who would get the car
And who would call a friend for a ride on a Saturday night
Needless to say this stand off occurred right after
Younger brother held brand new driver's license in hand
So, how did insight into our problem-solving plan resolve a classic sibling conflict?
Well, I asked my time-tested, well-practiced sons to calm their reactions by
Choosing to take an immediate time out on the spot and listen up
Once their attention tuned out every discordant noise in their heads
Here is the train of thought that we three tuned into, chugging out of my mind:
Sharing the car mirrors sharing a toy except for this difference ...
If your argument continues, we can't put the car in a closet
What we can do is to not allow the car to leave the garage
In that case, you'll both need to look for rides until this argument resolves
So—if that consequence doesn't appeal to you then
Please go into one of your rooms and
Make good use of your think tanks to brainstorm a solution
Then when you've agreed upon who'll get the car, this time
I'll look forward to hearing how
A pair of positively focused attitudes prove, once again, that
Two heads (on the same wave length) are better than one
Within a few minutes
Barry and Steven had resolved their conflict to the satisfaction of both
And as most of this scenario took place
In the absence of parental supervision and with little ado
I can't for the life of me remember who took the keys
And who called a friend for a ride on that particular night ...
But then, the particulars are not what matters most in today's post ...
What matters most is the fact that two teen aged bulls
Chose to pull in their horns, pull out attitudes, based in common sense
And upon making good use of problem solving skills, which
Proved so habitual that their conflict resolved in record time
All was well that ended well, on that particular Saturday night
And as a bonus, I can't remember my sons fighting about the car, again :)
Uhhh wait ... On second thought ...
There was one time when all three of us
Had reason to dive a bit deeper into our think tanks in hopes of
Pulling out a plum of a solution that kept the peace ... Not
For just one night but for the next two years ... and beyond :)
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