*(Do you realize that passive aggressive putdowns are subtle examples bullying in that one person feels elevated by causing another to feel insecure? If you've not yet read the series of posts entitled BULLY FOR ME, may I respectful suggest that there's no better time to do so than now?)
Uh wait, perhaps it's best to consider this train of thought, first:
Conflict divides two factions into separate groups when denial drives one group into a mind maze, while those who make up the other side embraces a growing sense of self-awareness by digging toward truths, buried deep within the subconscious mind.
Once the leadership of a group as a whole cracks in half, causing two leaders to vie for control, it's wise for at least one leader to come up with a logical, step-by-step plan. Not a plan of attack. A plan, which, over time, may heal the group's sense of safety, as a whole.
TWO STEP PLAN FOR HEALING LEADERSHIP
Step one:
Hold fast to hope ...
Know hope to be the glue that fastens the mind to positive focus
When passive/aggressive putdowns rain down
Liken hope to an umbrella to which you hold fast—
No matter how fierce the storm ... because
It's always darkest before the dawn
As any hopeful, thus positively focused, leader knows full well ...
It's necessary to muster the courage to dig ever more deeply to see where
Everyone may be in denial.
If we listen, attentively, for the spirit of wisdom to whistle through the wind
Our minds may absorb sound waves of Know thyself whispering into our ears
Did you hear the spirit of the sage whisper in our direction, just now? Great! So did I!
Each time I understand my vulnerabilities and strengths with a greater sense of accuracy ...
I tend to see the both sides with a deepening sense of clarity ...
And once clarity is mine and tunnel vision expands, bigger pictures emerge in 3D
As deeper truths continue to emerge from within my subconscious
I am empowered to step back from confusion
And see the main cause of a power struggle that just won't quit.
With courage, patience and clarity
I gain insight into this fork in the road:
Fear leads toward more pain on all sides.
Courage leads toward insightful gains in which both sides benefit, down the road.
As this proves true, again and again, I work to by pass fear in hopes of
Seeking insight into unearthing painful truths
Concerning dysfunctional group dynamics, which slices the whole
Into two separate parts
As one story leads to the next
And vulnerabilities develop into strengths
You'll come to see why the leader, who prevails
Proves to be the person who does not fear confronting painful truths
Which highlight personal traits in serious need of repair.
Leaders, who cannot set their egos to one side in hopes of absorbing deeper truths
Cannot inspire followers to develop courageous attitudes that consider both sides ...
For this reason: Wounded egos walk the path where fear and inner rage
Lead ever deeper into mind mazes, flooded with despair
Leaders who embrace the strength of humility inspire the minds of followers
To set their egos aside in hopes of absorbing deeper truths, which
Lead toward peaceful conflict resolution, over time
Take it from a wise old hoot—like Socrates—
Whose wings flutter in the wind
As his spirit inquires: Do you know HOO are you?
Before you answer that question, let's consider one more:
When you approach a fork in the road
Which path do you choose, most often, for yourself:
The path, whose street sign points towards Courage, holding fast to
Trains of thought buoyed by hope?
Or the path, whose street sign points toward busloads of Fear
Where passive aggression slips out as quick as a slithering eel?
After considering that question:
Do you really know HOO you are ... or is it possible that
You're in denial, meaning that, when it comes to self awareness ...
You don't have clue?
Whereas courage works to recognize pain that leads toward gain, all around
A mind in denial works overtime to block logic at every turn
If you see yourself as a DEEPER TRUTH SEEKER then do you ...
Advise courage to hold fast to positive attitude, which breathes life into hope?
Do you hold fast to the fact that the only person you can change—
For the better is yourself?
Do you remind yourself that working to change
Your own out dated mindsets is more than work enough for one person?
Do you step back from the mind maze where confusion ignites fear to flare, all around?
Do you step back from smoke screens that block exits from the maze?
Can you tell whom, within the group, proves less afraid of connecting with deeper truths?
Can you approach each of these people, one by one—one on one
Do you continue to work at uncovering hot spots which
Suck you back into discussions that go nowhere good?
Do you realize that as you continue to know yourself in greater depth
Passive-aggressive untruths will lose their power to
Play havoc with your sense of inner peace?
Though the only person you can change is yourself
Once you are conscious of being a role model
You may inspire those, who place their faith in your success
To want to seek deeper truths along with you
Or ...
Do you remain embroiled in discussions where you set off alarming truths
Which cause others, who lack readiness, to quake in their boots?
Stories exemplifying the choices above will appear down the road ...
If you'd like to see how I taught my eleven year old child to muster the courage and patience to develop strengths necessary to stop a bullying gang in its tracks then let me know by way of the comment box .
(Note my child was the same age I was when the bully on the bus got the best of me.)
If the ayes have it—in the comment box, below—
We'll ask Annie and Mom to hang a little longer in suspended animation
While you and I sidetrack for a while
If no response appears, I'll table that story until it turns up, naturally, down the road.
As always, my friends—the choice is up to you ...
Door number one: Start the swing swinging, again
Door number two: Diverge upon a new path for a while
If you're new to my blog
You may choose Door number three and read the posts entitled BULLY FOR ME)
You may choose Door number three and read the posts entitled BULLY FOR ME)
As to where we'll go when next we meet, well—your guess is as good as mine
And so, until tomorrow—parting is such sweet sorrow
Your corny friend, Annie
J
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