465 (C) WHY DO I KEEP WRITING ABOUT DENIAL?

Let's say that in recent years, I've had reason to quietly observe others
Exonerating themselves from accountability, concerning relationships
Which barrel downhill because denial refuses to see the sum one's parts as a whole

Let's say common sense suggests we must face a mirror honestly
Before deeper truths can emerge from behind smokescreens
Which grow foggier by the year

Let's say that those in denial may feel bitten
Because the ego's mental smokescreens block them from seeing
Who is actually doing the biting vs. who hopes clarity will stop denial in its tracks

Let's say people have good reason for taking steps back when one's voice
Has been consistently ignored, other than those times when an eel's biting retorts
Slip out in passive aggressive ways, too subtle for observers to detect

Let's say that once clarity blows confusion away, and I have your number
Your electric eel may continue to direct subtle zingers at me—to no avail
Because, with clarity, I'm empowered to deactivate buttons which had once been hot

Let's say that once my hot buttons are deactivated our relationship still loses, thus
LOSS is the winner on both sides, because I have reason to believe that
Your insecurities cause denial to loom larger than your desire to face deeper truths

Let's say that as long as I can't trust you to see the sum of your parts as a whole
Our relationship will wain in this state of Catch 22 ... Why?
I'll not re-engage within an unhealthy maze that offers a foggy, false sense of safety

Let's say that when partial accountability for misconduct is denied
Deeply valued relationships
May be left with no choice other than to walk separate paths

Let's say that, story by story, I aim to show
Why denial walks one path while clarity chooses another
Unnecessarily—all too often


Let's say that you ask me to explain what I mean by
Denial walking one path while clarity walks another
Unnecessarily...


Let's say I believe the day will dawn when listening skills become
As highly valued around the world as calming down in time out is valued, today
Having said that, isn't the time ripe for your listening skills to expand—now?


Let's say that with listening skills, tunnel vision expands
Once tunnel vision expands, narrow mindsets stop leaping toward
Misperceived conclusions that darken our views and divide us into separate camps

Let's say: ' The key to success in gaining confidence is to be authentically oneself.'
I'm paraphrasing creative artist Carole King (Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow),who
Says her '... need for affection and affirmation' accepted unhealthy relationships

Let's say you'd like to ask ...
Annie, why do you feel this pressing need
To write about this topic, daily?  I'd respond ...