2014
Think about it:
Is it possible to remodel your home without , first, disassembling that which is in disrepair and seriously in need of an update?
As the brain is home to attitudes, which direct thoughts and feelings, it makes sense to disassemble walls that deny you access to faulty wiring, especially when that faulty wiring shocked you into believing yourself unworthy of your parents' love at some point in your childhood. As long as you remain unaware of having buried the weight of this self demeaning belief within your subconscious, your faulty wiring will burn your conscious mind with shock waves of undeserved guilt, thus jarring your inner peace whenever you fear falling short of perfection, today. As perfection does not exist, isn't it time to offer your spirit the same heartfelt, uplifting advice that you'd offer a friend, as in:
Each time you catch your conscious mind stressing over that which you deem as imperfection, take a spontaneous time out on the spot to review the nature of the subconscious, self demeaning attitude that may catalyze your tendency to put yourself down, and in this way, you can consciously embrace your whole self as having developed character traits, which prove you to be worthy of self respect, every day.
If you can remember a time during childhood when you'd believed yourself guilty of letting a beloved parent down then deeper truth suggests that a wounded portion of your self esteem may be in need of healing as had been true of mine. If, as a child, your subconscious absorbed the unforgiving attitude of a perfectionistic parent then that wounded portion of your self esteem, which had felt crushed, may be the reason why you experience spikes of anxiety, today.
As human nature tends to pass these perfectionistic attitudes from one generation to the next, the buck stops here for this reason: I got lucky. How so? I was introduced to the mind of Dr. Rudolph Dreikurs when my eldest son was two. And just as Plato became a disciple of Socrates, I deemed myself a disciple of Dreikurs, whose child rearing book, Children The Challenge, opened my eyes, mind and spirit to techniques in positive discipline that inspired me to disassemble my perfectionistic tendencies, and as his teachings became my bible, his brilliance created a hunger within my mind to devour the interconnected nature of strings of insights so self empowering as to have inspired me to compile a professional library, which, over these past 43 years, has continued to pass an accumulated wealth of knowledge from the bookshelves that line up in my home office from floor to ceiling, into my conscious mind.
As these tomes of insight are condensed inside my head, which, thankfully, accompanies me every place I go, I'm rarely at a loss for words—unless you find me adventuring into unexplored territory where my wide-eyed, high spirited sense of adventure feels cautiously confused. When confused, you'll watch me retreat into a place of solitude where my mind can think so deep as to gain insight into a plan that successfully remodels a self defective mindset, which had caused me to feel anxious, and, guess what years of deep thinking discovered? A path that has led me to develop a voice that offers me brand new opportunities to meet my personal needs free of undeserved guilt, at last!
Though I'd planned to write about my eye-opening confrontation with Grandma Ella, today's train of thought had need to see the light of day. So, hopefully, I'll offer you a bird's eye view of that which took place between Gram and me when, much to my dumbfounded surprise, my phone began to ring off the wall as a plethora of guys began to call ...
PS
In case you're giving yourself a hard time, concerning the way you'd raised your kids … please take a time out to remodel that self demeaning attitude, right now! It's important to note that during the years when the brain of this teacher of children had been raising my kids, your brain may have been hard at work perfecting a whole different game. So, if, upon reflection, you'd like to tell a child that you would have reacted differently had your mind been introduced to the positive results that follow techniques in positively focused discipline, early on, please know that—just as it's never too late to unload undeserved guilt from your subconscious—it's never too late to encourage another person to think better of himself by discussing mistakes that all parents make when we fly by the seat of our pants. I mean, seriously, it has taken close to fifty years for Dreikurs' insights to become commonplace, right? I just got lucky to ride in this this particular elevator from the ground floor up. And BTW, I'll bet I'm not far off the mark to believe that your kids are raising their kids with attention to Adlerian psychology, and guess who proved to be a young disciple of Dreikurs? Yep! Alfred Adler, whose name climbed to fame whereas his mentor had not.
In recent years, I chose to sit down with each of my sons to acknowledge my mistakes. Why? Because, with all of my knowledge, no one proves to be perfect at anything. I mean, really—can you name one hall of famer who'd batted 1000?
The fact that you choose to follow writings that trace the intricate pattern of self healing that fills post after post suggests your mind's agility to adopt insight into clarifying complexity of thought, signaling my intuition to believe that you captained a steadfast ship while raising your crew.
As I sense today's train of thought pulling into the station, hopefully, tomorrow, we'll eavesdrop upon a phone conversation that took place between my grandma and one of the boys, who'd asked for my number when I was at the beach with my friends during the summer of my eighteenth year, and now—wishing you a five star day—I hope to see you, tomorrow
Your friend,
Annie
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