Thursday, November 14, 2013

835. WHY DO THE PERCEPTIONS OF THE OPTIMIST AND PESSIMIST VISUALIZE DIFFERENT ENDS…

If asked how optimistic realists avoid head-on collisions with loved ones, whose defensive walls prove impenetrable, I'd reply:
The road toward self discovery leads toward the path to love's recovery :)

If asked why that's true, I'd reply:
The road toward self discovery offers sound reason to set one's injured ego aside.  Each time the injured portion of the ego is set aside, a defensive mindset is placed in time out, and, over time, the think tank expands to develop an objective sense of compassionate forgiveness for those who remain blind to how often their negatively focused mindsets push others away, thus creating unhappiness, all around.  As comprehension into self awareness and family roles deepen,  confusion, which produces frustration, lessens.  With understanding, anger transforms into sadness for all that is lost when misunderstandings grow so complex that loved ones wander through darkly clouded, emotional mazes till the end of their days.

In order that sadness not deepen into depression, each person must gain insight into changing attitudes of resignation into peaceable acceptance, concerning the reality of both sides of human nature, which vie for space within every think tank throughout the world.   I mean, how long ago did Socrates say Know Thyself?  I mean how can you be true to yourself if your defense system keeps secrets from your conscious mind?  Seriously, can you be yourself if you don't know yourself?

Though the optimist welcomes discussion concerning self discovery, thus deepening insight into self awareness, the pessimist fears uncovering personal traits in need of self-improvement.  In this way does insecurity create havoc in my family and yours, more often than we'd think.  And in keeping with the fact that you can't fool all the people all the time, many are surprised to learn how often insecurity hides behind an academy award-winning 'self confident' persona that fools most everyone … most especially oneself.

As years pass, a person, who has no clue of harboring deep seated fears, lumbering around in secret pockets of his subconscious, believes that the false front he wears to protect his vulnerabilities is who he is, through and through.  In truth this person's denial of self awareness makes him more vulnerable to feeling shocked when certain half baked strengths implode than a person who has come to accept that everyone wears a false front to some extent to mask festering injuries from oneself.

Therefore, the person who musters the courage to walk the path of self discovery is fortunate for this reason:  If ever this person's subconscious fears (and we all have them) overwhelm all sense of logic, he is more apt to dive into the deep end of his mind in hopes of uncovering insight into childhood events that injured telf esteem.  And if, when this person dives deeper than ever before, an unknown source of fear emerges then this person's conscious mind is newly empowered to rein in that fear whenever an event takes place that arouses this particular ghost-like presence to traumatize all sense of safety, again.

In a story down the road, I'll show you what caused my persona to develop its attitude of cock-eyed optimism when I was a child.  Then in another story, you'll witness the ways in which that polarized (narrow) mindset caused me to experience confusion and painful disappointment, repeatedly, until the path of self discovery beckoned, welcoming me to muster the courage and patience necessary to work at expanding my narrow mindset in order to grow into the optimistic realist that I am in the process of becoming, today :)

Quoting Will:  Change is not necessarily synonymous with progress, suggesting that negative attitudes and cock-eyed views often produce change for the worse

*When answering the question … Why do the perceptions of the optimist and pessimist see the same situation but visualize different ends … here is my reply:  While the optimistic realist works to develop a sensitivity to infinitesimal steps toward conflict resolution, the negatively focused, narrow bent of the pessimist's mindset remains blind to change for the better until after an illusive goal has been fully achieved.  Having engaged in endless conversations with hard core pessimists who can't budge an inch, I believe it makes sense to disengage from discussing certain subjects, again.  Therefore, each time that subject is brought up, I say:  We need a different topic.  If the pessimist ignores my need to change the subject, I smile, excuse myself for a few minutes and take an emotionally mature time out.  When I was a cock-eyed optimist, that sanity-saving strategy did not occur to me, because I was blind to the fact that my compassionate sense of logic did not empower me to expand every mindset toward embracing that which appeared to be positive steps toward change for the better, all around.

By way of telling you the story of that which I experienced over these last four months,  you'll see how insight into self awareness identifies subconscious fears, which left undetected undermined my hard earned strengths.  If you ask me to clarify the primary reason as to why I've not felt ready to relate this story as of yet, I'll reply:  My think tank is still working to gain insight into the main source of that which caused the emergence of unexpected emotion, which changed my thinking patterns in ways that I do not yet fully understand.  On the other hand, intuition suggests that this recent series of posts, concerning diving into depths of realism, points toward rearranging a mindset that's processing through change for the better in hopes that, one day soon, insight into unidentified fear will filter through the permeable wall separating my subconscious from the conscious portion of my mind.  And here is why it's worth my time and energy to dig until that fear emerges in plain sight:

Once fears, hidden in dark pockets of a traumatized child's subconscious, are fully identified in the clear light of today, that which had paralyzed my sense of logic in recent weeks will lose its powerful hold on the conscious mind of your adult friend, Annie, whose sense of emotional security continues to mature as one insight leads to the next, day by day.  And hopefully, while writing this story, my sense of self awareness will continue to deepen so that any half baked strength that emerges may be placed in the oven, again :)

And now, your guess is as good as mine as to why two additional riddles just popped out of my mind:

Why do those with high self esteem tend to become cock-eyed optimists more often than not?

What does NGUOUY stand for? :)


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