The pessimist may feel positively focused as long as others remain aligned with his views with such high levels of consistency that the remote possibility of change never enters his mind. However, if change does take place and if that change arouses defensiveness, the complacent mindset of the pessimist will be blown to kingdom come.
You see, the moment a comrade is seen as an adversary, the pessimist's defensive reaction darkens his view, and since attitude is everything … war is declared.
Once engaged in open warfare, the optimist will work consciously and thus logically toward win-win while the pessimist, blinded by hot-wired, emotional defensiveness battles on toward win-lose. Why is this true? Because the attitude (mindset) of the pessimist is subconsciously, thus unknowingly, wired to the concept of 'you're with me or against me, so it's my way or the highway for you'.
And here is why it's important for the optimist to understand the defensive attitude that darkens the pessimist's views: Opposites attract. Once two people, who love each other, engage in a power struggle, both will play the crazy game of 'come-here-go-away' until pain on both sides results in such depths of confusion that love and logic lose to anger and craziness. At this point, both sides end up exhausted in the offices of dueling divorce lawyers. And guess where divorce lawyers take their clients? To divorce court.
So, if love and peace are actually what both sides want most then what must the optimist and pessimist come to know?
You see, the moment a comrade is seen as an adversary, the pessimist's defensive reaction darkens his view, and since attitude is everything … war is declared.
Once engaged in open warfare, the optimist will work consciously and thus logically toward win-win while the pessimist, blinded by hot-wired, emotional defensiveness battles on toward win-lose. Why is this true? Because the attitude (mindset) of the pessimist is subconsciously, thus unknowingly, wired to the concept of 'you're with me or against me, so it's my way or the highway for you'.
And here is why it's important for the optimist to understand the defensive attitude that darkens the pessimist's views: Opposites attract. Once two people, who love each other, engage in a power struggle, both will play the crazy game of 'come-here-go-away' until pain on both sides results in such depths of confusion that love and logic lose to anger and craziness. At this point, both sides end up exhausted in the offices of dueling divorce lawyers. And guess where divorce lawyers take their clients? To divorce court.
So, if love and peace are actually what both sides want most then what must the optimist and pessimist come to know?
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