Every great leader needs to hone clarity in order to know which trait he leans toward most often ... optimism or pessimism. You see, the optimist and pessimist need to know who is who for this reason: If deeper truth suggests that the only constant in life is change then nothing stays the same, meaning it's likely that conflict will develop between allies, who will evolve into adversaries when unmet needs clash head-on, causing power struggles to go on and on ... and on ....
If nothing stays the same, suggesting that everything gets better or worse ... and if everything includes relationships then relationships, which had once thrived will also move through this evolution of change. And if, during this classic evolution of change, both sides remain blind to hints of change for the worse, clarity gives way to confusion, which, over time, grows so great that two people, wandering through an emotional maze, may ultimately exhaust, because confusion without resolution heightens tension, which is not a healthy state for the human mind. At this point, relationships made in heaven may descend, one infinitesimal step at a time, into such a hellish state as to tear the union of two hearts asunder until coexistence feels impossible to both.
Once a marriage made in heaven evolves into two people's worst nightmare, divorce court seems the only path toward restoring sanity unless something serves as a catalyst that compels the optimist and pessimist to choose the path of self discovery, whereby both grow so self aware as to identify their own defensive reactions, based in unidentified fears or unhealed wounds, which haunt each of us subconsciously.
When two people feel inspired to adventure forth upon the path of self awareness, yesteryear's vulnerabilities transform into fully baked strengths. With insight into strengths, which had been half baked, defensive attitudes that erupted into anger to the point of craziness, alter, all around. And yes, my friends, it's true that cock-eyed optimists develop defensive (negatively focused) reactions, over time. Why? Because optimists are every bit as human as pessimists. And at some point in time a cock-eyed optimist will tire of seeking doors, windows or cracks in the pessimist's solid defensive walls—unless the cock-eyed optimist remains blind to his own mental block, which prevents him from recognizing the consistency with which he talks to deaf ears—more concerning that train of thought later …
As for now, suffice to say that when an optimist and pessimist choose to work through mental blocks, each making gains in objectivity. With objectivity, misperceptions absorbed during childhood rebalance, and self defeating attitudes change. As attitudes change for the better, battlefields transform into common ground where depth in understanding clears confusion, thus reducing tension in the air. Once both minds attach to realistic, positively focused trains of thought, mutual respect expands, love rejeuvenates and both minds embrace a sense of inner peace, which had not been possible until the path toward self discovery deepened each person's sense of self awareness.
And amen to change for the better based in a concept as classic as this:
If change is the only constant in life, suggesting that everything gets better or worse, then the mind that gains insight into self awareness is likely to be rewarded with a greater sense of balance in all things :)
Your friend,
:) Annie
PS … Oh dear—here comes yet another insight that the optimist and pessimist need to know …
If nothing stays the same, suggesting that everything gets better or worse ... and if everything includes relationships then relationships, which had once thrived will also move through this evolution of change. And if, during this classic evolution of change, both sides remain blind to hints of change for the worse, clarity gives way to confusion, which, over time, grows so great that two people, wandering through an emotional maze, may ultimately exhaust, because confusion without resolution heightens tension, which is not a healthy state for the human mind. At this point, relationships made in heaven may descend, one infinitesimal step at a time, into such a hellish state as to tear the union of two hearts asunder until coexistence feels impossible to both.
Once a marriage made in heaven evolves into two people's worst nightmare, divorce court seems the only path toward restoring sanity unless something serves as a catalyst that compels the optimist and pessimist to choose the path of self discovery, whereby both grow so self aware as to identify their own defensive reactions, based in unidentified fears or unhealed wounds, which haunt each of us subconsciously.
When two people feel inspired to adventure forth upon the path of self awareness, yesteryear's vulnerabilities transform into fully baked strengths. With insight into strengths, which had been half baked, defensive attitudes that erupted into anger to the point of craziness, alter, all around. And yes, my friends, it's true that cock-eyed optimists develop defensive (negatively focused) reactions, over time. Why? Because optimists are every bit as human as pessimists. And at some point in time a cock-eyed optimist will tire of seeking doors, windows or cracks in the pessimist's solid defensive walls—unless the cock-eyed optimist remains blind to his own mental block, which prevents him from recognizing the consistency with which he talks to deaf ears—more concerning that train of thought later …
As for now, suffice to say that when an optimist and pessimist choose to work through mental blocks, each making gains in objectivity. With objectivity, misperceptions absorbed during childhood rebalance, and self defeating attitudes change. As attitudes change for the better, battlefields transform into common ground where depth in understanding clears confusion, thus reducing tension in the air. Once both minds attach to realistic, positively focused trains of thought, mutual respect expands, love rejeuvenates and both minds embrace a sense of inner peace, which had not been possible until the path toward self discovery deepened each person's sense of self awareness.
And amen to change for the better based in a concept as classic as this:
If change is the only constant in life, suggesting that everything gets better or worse, then the mind that gains insight into self awareness is likely to be rewarded with a greater sense of balance in all things :)
Your friend,
:) Annie
PS … Oh dear—here comes yet another insight that the optimist and pessimist need to know …
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