The cock-eyed optimist and pessimist are similarly confused in this way:
Both have no clue of harboring unrealistic expectations.
If asked what causes their unrealistic expectations to exist at opposite poles, I'd say:
One has his head in the clouds, the other in a black hole …
And as tunnel vision results in narrow views on both sides, you can see why they can't meet eye to eye—but they cannot unless both work toward expanding peripheral vision.
And as long as both remain blind to personal fears that polarize each one's mindset, neither can clarify the foggy state of two minds that deny conscious access to the truth of the way things actually are. As long as neither quests toward insight into denial, neither will grow aware of how consistently their conversations crash into their own defensive walls.
As I work to straighten wrinkles out of my cock-eyed views, my expectations grow more realistic in terms of identifying an adversarial mindset that may eventually power struggle with less of a bent toward ironclad, head-on collisions. Once I differentiate between talking to a solid stone wall made of power-struggling stubborness vs. talking to a mindset that inches toward regaining our lost sense of mutually respecting reconciliation, the 'myth of movement' can't confuse my think tank as it had in the past.
Once I can differentiate between two mind sets that seem the same but upon deeper reflection are not, I know where to direct my energy, productively. And as optimistic realists are known to develop into effective leaders who employ a host of personal strengths while working patiently and thus tirelessly toward achieving illusive, heartfelt, long range goals … that's what I aim to be :)
If asked how optimistic realists avoid head-on collisions with loved ones, whose defensive walls remain impenetrable, I'd reply ...
Both have no clue of harboring unrealistic expectations.
If asked what causes their unrealistic expectations to exist at opposite poles, I'd say:
One has his head in the clouds, the other in a black hole …
And as tunnel vision results in narrow views on both sides, you can see why they can't meet eye to eye—but they cannot unless both work toward expanding peripheral vision.
And as long as both remain blind to personal fears that polarize each one's mindset, neither can clarify the foggy state of two minds that deny conscious access to the truth of the way things actually are. As long as neither quests toward insight into denial, neither will grow aware of how consistently their conversations crash into their own defensive walls.
As I work to straighten wrinkles out of my cock-eyed views, my expectations grow more realistic in terms of identifying an adversarial mindset that may eventually power struggle with less of a bent toward ironclad, head-on collisions. Once I differentiate between talking to a solid stone wall made of power-struggling stubborness vs. talking to a mindset that inches toward regaining our lost sense of mutually respecting reconciliation, the 'myth of movement' can't confuse my think tank as it had in the past.
Once I can differentiate between two mind sets that seem the same but upon deeper reflection are not, I know where to direct my energy, productively. And as optimistic realists are known to develop into effective leaders who employ a host of personal strengths while working patiently and thus tirelessly toward achieving illusive, heartfelt, long range goals … that's what I aim to be :)
If asked how optimistic realists avoid head-on collisions with loved ones, whose defensive walls remain impenetrable, I'd reply ...
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