“In the aftermath of tragic loss, people feel as though they are ‘lost’, drifting alone in a sea of grief that no one understands. During this time, a deeply grieving soul may act strangely for this reason: *Shocking experiences crack the persona’s walls, and insecurities, which had been repressed for many years, are exposed. Once insecurity feels exposed, the mind may react—strangely. *As soon as a person behaves strangely, defense systems, on all sides, stand at alert. Why? Because basic instinct is wary of strangers. And thus may observers react as though a loved one has turned into ‘Stranger Danger’.
*During those times when life feels surreal, it's not uncommon for a vicious cycle of misfired perceptions to speed up, and as defensive rationalizations fire off, we all try to maintain our footing and stand on solid ground by discrediting any messenger who digs too deep into our psyches, where wounded egos reign supreme. And thus do mental mazes, which begin to develop during early childhood, grow deeper, stage by stage—unless we consciously choose to muster the courage to seek guidance in hopes of uprooting unidentified insecurities left unresolved in subconscious pockets of each person's mind. Mom, if we place the change in Grandma Ella’s attitude to one side, would you say that people's words, actions and behaviors were helpful or hindering to your recovery after Janet died?”
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