55 FOUR PILLARS OF FRIENDSHIP

It's important to note that trust is the basis of any lasting relationship.  Thus if the harrowing nature of one person's crises is dismissed as—NO BIGGIE—repeatedly—that element of insensitivity is a deal breaker.  And why is that true?  

Supportive friendships rely upon depth perception.

In the absence of depth perception, friendship tends to weaken, little by little, until a roof, which had once seemed strong and solid, crashes in.  In other words, crises, left unresolved, is like a killer on the loose in the dark.


Though I am eager to post END BULLY FOR ME Part 5, I feel compelled to show you a game that I've named:

COLLECT THE FOUR PILLARS OF LASTING FRIENDSHIP

The object of this game requires people with conflicting needs to collect all four pillars.  With only three rules to follow, you'd think this game would be easy to win, but that's not the case.  You see:


Rule number one requires every player to transform defensive thought processes into thoughts, filled with common sense.


Rule number two requires each player to keep all four pillars in mind when conflicts heat up.


Rule number three requires that everyone wins.


Here are the Four Pillars of Friendship, which need to be collected by everyone involved:  

1. Pillar #One:    Open-minded-positively-focused attitudes which lead to ...
2. Pillar # Two:   Mutual respect which is based in ...
3. Pillar # Three: Listening acuity... resulting in ...
4. Pillar # Four:   Trustful negotiations ... so that needs are considered all around

Once this game gets underway, everyone who plays works to strengthen each pillar, so that depth perception deepens on every side.

If, over time, the strength of these pillars wain, bonds of friendship weaken, the roof caves in, and no one wins.

Bottom line:  If you believe that love conquers all ... then you may be as naive as I once was.  You see, in the absence of depth perception, love has a tough time conquering subconscious distrust.  Bottom line:

Distrust is the opposite of friendship.

If that's the bad news then here's the good:
Once everyone learns how to play FOUR PILLARS, love strengthens by way of the power of knowledge.  And as soon as everyone feels like a winner, THE BLAME GAME goes away.  Hooray!

PS   :-)
Point of reference for future posts:  From now on I'll refer to—Repetition is not Redundant when the goal is Retention—in this way:  RR&R