76 ANNIE LEARNS ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEES ...76

If it's natural (nature's way) for some aspect of sex to pass through some part of the human brain several times in a minute (Please don't ask me to google exact facts of everything I've chosen to learn over the years, or my stories will never end ...) then perhaps we may each hold ourselves accountable for learning what comprises responsible and yet well rounded sexual experiences vs. limiting oneself to furtive, narrow minded experiences in which three share the bed:  he, she and pressure to deliver the goods ... much more about sex, pressure, and—choosing partners—later, gater.


Having led countless seminars in family communications at conferences for many years, I've yet to facilitate a seminar, concerning imparting information of a sexual nature to children, without coming up against walls of resistance from parents, who can't raise the subject at home without embarrassment.


How healthy of an attitude is that?

How can embarrassment create healthy attitudes in our young?

Why do pre teen fashionistas dress like hookers?  What do the minds of children disgest while eating at Hooters?  If developing a healthy outlook on many aspects of life and love necessitate balance in all things, then how healthy are our attitudes, concerning men, women, and sexuality, at home?  In short, it's not so much what you say but what your children see you do that will influence what they choose to do, too.


So, how did I learn about sex?  Well, I was engaged in a fight with a cousin (over who-knows-what), when this question was spat out at me:  Do you know what your daddy does to your mommy when they want to make a baby?  As this question had nothing to do with whatever two kids in kindergarten had been tussling over, my cousin had successfully diverted (manipulated) the path of my mind.  Feeling utterly perplexed by this too-fast-to-process-switch-a-roo, my response was spontaneous: Uh—no—what does my daddy do?


Whenever your mommy and daddy want a baby, your daddy sticks his thing into your mommy, 'down there', and that's why you came out of her tummy! 


Utterly dumbfounded that my cousin would suggest that my mommy would let my daddy do such a dumb (disgusting) thing 'down there' with his thing, I pushed her down on the grass and ran upstairs to tell my mommy about the terrible lie that I'd just been told.


More about my shock, following my mom's unexpected response, later.


As for now, how did you learn about the birds and bees?  Who did you go to, openly and trustfully, with questions when you were five?  Ten?  Twelve?  Sixteen? Thirty?  Today?


If you have children, how did you (or how do you) engage their minds in age appropriate discussions?


Why did Mother Nature hard wire the human brain to entertain sexual thoughts several times every minute?


Which people were the primary influence of sexual development in the USA:
Native Americans, Hot blooded Latinos, or—Puritans?


Why are we stereotyped?
How does 'Jewish guilt' differ from 'Catholic guilt'?
How does one culture influence another?
Are we a melting pot or a boiling pot?
Or somewhere in between???????


How did 'the pill' influence the divorce rate?
Can you define the differences between being free with sex and feeling free to explore and enjoy one's own sensuality—responsibly?


Once denial's walls are knocked down and doors unlock within our minds, there's lots to re-evaluate, concerning how a well balanced state of harmony develops in many aspects of life and love.  Having made a concerted effort to study insights into harmony from many angles, I'm writing this blog in hopes of creating an avenue by which to initiate stirring conversations—leading to positive changes—in home after home after home—beginning with my own ... :-)