Today, I'm eager to offer you three insights for the price of one: If one hopes to navigate successfully through life's rocky moments with our most meaningful relationships then the mind must be trained to ... remain calm and clear when setting boundaries; to be kind when privacy is breached (suggesting a glaring need to assert one's independence) and to learn how to maintain one's sense of calmness as tension mounts during moments fraught with conflict. Once this trio guides your path, you'll be less likely to trip over any unfinished business that may spill out of your junk drawer when a loved one pushes red hot buttons, releasing memories so troubling that your need for self restraint proves great.
If I chose to write solely of idyllic moments spent with loved ones, the story of my life would read as a fantasy, based in the pretense of denial. As writing a fairy tale is at cross purposes with my mission of sharing the true nitty-gritty nature of life, suffice to say that pushing past my comfort zones proves necessary if I hope to connect gritty memories with insight into reality's deeper truths, time and again. As the truth is often painful to confront, many posts demand humility to write, courage to publish. On the other hand, as it's true that pain precedes gain, upon exposing the underbelly of life to you, my defense system's narrow views explore reason to expand, and thus is my passion for self discovery fulfilled :)
As mentioned in a post, further back, communicating with kindness, discretion and clarity, expressly when loved ones or colleagues are pushing hot buttons, is vital to every relationship's good health. And let me say that it takes a whale of self restraint not to push their hot buttons back. When asked what stops me from striking back, my reply is two fold: My mind is practiced at maintaing a clear focus on conflict resolution. And my mind knows better than to emulate character traits that I do not respect.
As effective communications relies upon kindness, discretion, clarity, and self restraint, you'll rarely see me eating my own words, wallowing in regret or slipping subtle insults your way under the table. At this point in my life, my spirit feels peaceful, most days, and my body sleeps well, most nights for this reason: My mind has been consciously groomed to attach to a host of listening and speaking skills during life's most tumultuous moments when the defensive reactions of others, less practiced at kindness, self restraint and clarity, freeze like statues or fly off the handle, acting as though they've lost control over the logical side of their tongues, specifically at those times when logic, kindness, discretion and clarity save the day.
As to the story I promised, concerning the insightful grandpa and his fortunate grand son, patience, my friends ... IPad still acting out, so though I'm eager to share this host of insights with you, that post will remain in time out (also known as drafts) until I fly home and reconnect, appreciatively, with my trusty computer's expanded capabilities, again. :)
As to today's plans with mom ... First, we're set to enjoy lunch with a dear high school friend, who, demonstrating a sense of eagerness when offering to pick us up, seems as excited to spend time with us as we are with her. Secondly, a couple, proving to be devoted friends ever since our college days, have chosen to pick me up earlier than expected to spend time with Mom before depositing me at the airport. Nice day to look forward to ... right? And how! :)
If I chose to write solely of idyllic moments spent with loved ones, the story of my life would read as a fantasy, based in the pretense of denial. As writing a fairy tale is at cross purposes with my mission of sharing the true nitty-gritty nature of life, suffice to say that pushing past my comfort zones proves necessary if I hope to connect gritty memories with insight into reality's deeper truths, time and again. As the truth is often painful to confront, many posts demand humility to write, courage to publish. On the other hand, as it's true that pain precedes gain, upon exposing the underbelly of life to you, my defense system's narrow views explore reason to expand, and thus is my passion for self discovery fulfilled :)
As mentioned in a post, further back, communicating with kindness, discretion and clarity, expressly when loved ones or colleagues are pushing hot buttons, is vital to every relationship's good health. And let me say that it takes a whale of self restraint not to push their hot buttons back. When asked what stops me from striking back, my reply is two fold: My mind is practiced at maintaing a clear focus on conflict resolution. And my mind knows better than to emulate character traits that I do not respect.
As effective communications relies upon kindness, discretion, clarity, and self restraint, you'll rarely see me eating my own words, wallowing in regret or slipping subtle insults your way under the table. At this point in my life, my spirit feels peaceful, most days, and my body sleeps well, most nights for this reason: My mind has been consciously groomed to attach to a host of listening and speaking skills during life's most tumultuous moments when the defensive reactions of others, less practiced at kindness, self restraint and clarity, freeze like statues or fly off the handle, acting as though they've lost control over the logical side of their tongues, specifically at those times when logic, kindness, discretion and clarity save the day.
As to the story I promised, concerning the insightful grandpa and his fortunate grand son, patience, my friends ... IPad still acting out, so though I'm eager to share this host of insights with you, that post will remain in time out (also known as drafts) until I fly home and reconnect, appreciatively, with my trusty computer's expanded capabilities, again. :)
As to today's plans with mom ... First, we're set to enjoy lunch with a dear high school friend, who, demonstrating a sense of eagerness when offering to pick us up, seems as excited to spend time with us as we are with her. Secondly, a couple, proving to be devoted friends ever since our college days, have chosen to pick me up earlier than expected to spend time with Mom before depositing me at the airport. Nice day to look forward to ... right? And how! :)
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