Do you remember my take on a free flow of tears? Tears, which have received a bad rep, are another gift by which Mother Nature provides a conveyance for the honest emergence of pure emotion to emanate freely from the depths of one's soul. I’ve come to respect tears as the river that cleanses my heart of an emotional dam, so that once the rain washes another smoke screen out of my mind, my thoughts can flow so openly, honestly and clearly as to create a heartfelt reconnection that provides a deeply valued relationship with a path leading toward many mutually fulfilling tomorrows ahead.
I remember suggesting in a post, some time back, that tears are as healthy as smiles ... that at times of joy or sorrow, tears and smiles prove interchangeable. Please note that others are not responsible when I tear up. Pure and simple, the only person responsible for my expression of emotion is me. Whereas others may yell, shut down, or deflect emotion by wearing an I-don’t care mask, it's my way to offer emotion free passage to by pass pretense in favor of flowing heartfelt and pure. And thus do I conceive of tears as a river, directing me to attend to whatever I truly feel within my core. Perhaps it's fair to say that at this point in my life, I have a dickens of a time not being true to myself, through and through. Thus my need for a line of control, so that at those times when yet another subconscious dam begins to loosen up, raw emotion, tucked deep inside, emerges in bite sized portions rather than geysering up so unexpectedly that unsuspecting minds feel blown to kingdom come.
... I'm beginning to fathom that in the past, layers of numbness had served to protect me from confronting depths of emotion, reduced to being 'sensed'. I remember a time when I'd sensed a waining connection from one I loved, which continued to widen, no matter how patiently I'd worked in hopes of closing that gap. It was as if layers of numbness kept layering up in direct proportion to depths of emotion that my subconscious grappled with but my conscious mind feared to grasp. And having written that insight as clear as day, common sense suggests that each time subconscious fear layers up, so do layers of self protection, which tend to build up in direct proportion to the depth of one’s heartfelt fear of impending loss.
Yesterday's numbness differs from today's line of control in this way: Whereas numbness indicates emotion repressed within the subconscious and as such, unfelt, the line of control indicates emotion emerging so freely as to need conscious restraint.
In truth, the fact that I can tear up, today, signals personal growth. A couple of decades ago, when I'd had reason to grow so numb that tears remained unshed for years, I'd no clue of how often Mother Nature empowers our defense system to control our thoughts. I had no clue that a think tank in need of hiding depths of emotion from conscious awareness proves very confused and conflicted, indeed. The fact that I choose to acknowledge confusion based in fear, today, suggests that my tears are a healthy way to honestly communicate that which I feel deep inside, thus making certain that deeply valued relationships continue to function on a wave length where the truth emerges in it's most simplified form and is thus plain to see. For the most part, if on lookers do not need to fool themselves for whatever reason, I prove an easy read.
With open, honest, healthy emotional connections in mind, let's consider this ...
Whereas 70 % of human communication is non verbal, meaning clarity depends upon facial expressions, body language and voice tones, we, who live in today’s world, depend heavily on the written word, flying far and wide through cyberspace, conveying the essence of what we feel and believe. Upon taking that reality into consideration, the skill of two, navigating along the same, smooth wave length, indefinitely, proves challenging, at best. As the importance of that insight soaks into my mind, it’s plain to see the inevitability of smooth sailing heading into stormy seas where boats may rock through rapids, which though seeming to appear out of no where, are actually caused by the fact that the depth of true emotion is all too often misconstrued.
Each time open communications makes it through another set of rapids, calm waters are enjoyed and fear of rocking boats, capsizing, is put to rest ... until life offers us reason to sail around the next bend where yet another unexpected test of inner strengths, such as courage, patience, endurance and fortitude, awaits ...
Riddle:
If baby boys cry as much as baby girls then why do women tear up so much more easily and frequently than men?
Answer:
Attitude is everything.
Another word for attitude is mindset.
A mindset determines that which is habitually accepted behavior
And as habits learned tend to imprint more deeply than we'd think
It's a well known fact that, good or bad ...
Your habits and mine are hard to break :)
My dad was a man's man—no question about that
Lucky for me
His blue eyes teared up with tenderness on countless occasions.
As for attitude (mindsets) in need of change
Let's try this one on for size:
Hey! Toughen up and stop that crying you sissy ... what are you a girl or a boy????
Yesterday's numbness differs from today's line of control in this way: Whereas numbness indicates emotion repressed within the subconscious and as such, unfelt, the line of control indicates emotion emerging so freely as to need conscious restraint.
In truth, the fact that I can tear up, today, signals personal growth. A couple of decades ago, when I'd had reason to grow so numb that tears remained unshed for years, I'd no clue of how often Mother Nature empowers our defense system to control our thoughts. I had no clue that a think tank in need of hiding depths of emotion from conscious awareness proves very confused and conflicted, indeed. The fact that I choose to acknowledge confusion based in fear, today, suggests that my tears are a healthy way to honestly communicate that which I feel deep inside, thus making certain that deeply valued relationships continue to function on a wave length where the truth emerges in it's most simplified form and is thus plain to see. For the most part, if on lookers do not need to fool themselves for whatever reason, I prove an easy read.
Whereas 70 % of human communication is non verbal, meaning clarity depends upon facial expressions, body language and voice tones, we, who live in today’s world, depend heavily on the written word, flying far and wide through cyberspace, conveying the essence of what we feel and believe. Upon taking that reality into consideration, the skill of two, navigating along the same, smooth wave length, indefinitely, proves challenging, at best. As the importance of that insight soaks into my mind, it’s plain to see the inevitability of smooth sailing heading into stormy seas where boats may rock through rapids, which though seeming to appear out of no where, are actually caused by the fact that the depth of true emotion is all too often misconstrued.
Each time open communications makes it through another set of rapids, calm waters are enjoyed and fear of rocking boats, capsizing, is put to rest ... until life offers us reason to sail around the next bend where yet another unexpected test of inner strengths, such as courage, patience, endurance and fortitude, awaits ...
Riddle:
If baby boys cry as much as baby girls then why do women tear up so much more easily and frequently than men?
Answer:
Attitude is everything.
Another word for attitude is mindset.
A mindset determines that which is habitually accepted behavior
And as habits learned tend to imprint more deeply than we'd think
It's a well known fact that, good or bad ...
Your habits and mine are hard to break :)
My dad was a man's man—no question about that
Lucky for me
His blue eyes teared up with tenderness on countless occasions.
As for attitude (mindsets) in need of change
Let's try this one on for size:
Hey! Toughen up and stop that crying you sissy ... what are you a girl or a boy????
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