681. POTS OF GOLD Part 2

When two people understand the concept of linking longing with freedom, words like 'I miss you' are welcomed without one or the other feeling somehow remiss for letting the other linger in loneliness over long :)

Once we trust that roots and wings interlace, the pure sparkle of love is less apt to dull within misunderstanding's murky maze.  For example, insecurity is easily misread as need for control, and a person who is misread feels 'unknown'.

Left in its unresolved state, one misunderstanding leads to another.  Knowing this to be true, I call upon humility to direct me toward openness in terms of engaging in difficult conversations, which may transform confusion into clarity so that none will be misread; all will feel known, peaceful and connected, again :)

Once clarity is yours and mine, we tend to recognize, more readily, those times when the main root of an unresolved issue has flown into the fray, causing a conflict, which would have been simple to resolve on its own, to grow complex.  Each time the main root of yesterday's unresolved issue is recognized, the depth of my reactiveness relaxes.  With less reactiveness on my part, I can soothe inner turmoil and restore my sense of balance on my own ... In fact each time my agility 'gains' perspective in terms of positive focus, my self confidence heightens and compassion for the other guy deepens.  Resultant of self confidence and compassion, insight streams, naturally, through my mind, leaving less brain space for my junk drawer to fly open.  As insight floods my mind with brightness, insecurity is less apt to darken my perceptions and with clarity, my junk drawer keeps emptying out.  As you can see, taking 'time out' to calm reactiveness down is vital to minds of all ages.  The more practiced my mind is at controlling quick triggered reactiveness, the less often does junk muck up my good fortune, today!  Hurray!  :) :)

After my sons moved away and their wingspans were in full flight, they'd respond to 'I miss you' with a roll of the eyes.  Since my junk drawer did not fly open while interacting with them, this is what I'd say in hopes of maintaining clarity between us:  Whenever you hear I miss you, absorb only my message of love, no pressure to get in touch more often.  From that time on, they absorbed every one of my good natured vibes, because any vibe of undeserved guilt, which they'd heaped upon themselves, had disappeared.  Less undeserved guilt, more open brain space in which to absorb the pureness of heart felt messages, flowing freely, back and forth.

See why I say less insecurity from me equals less pressure on others?  See why it's important to note whether pressure may be self imposed?  Once clarity is shared and misunderstanding evaporates into thin air, the expanse of the sky opens for love and friendship to flow so freely that time and miles seem to fly away when separated from those we love.  When I am here and a loved one is there, this positively focused concept of win-win is anchored across the expanse of the sky by a rainbow with pots of gold on both ends :)