Just realized that post 645 ... HOW TO RETRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO BECOME A CHILD WHISPERER was never published, So upon attaching my ego to its time out chair, I'll humbly acknowledge and rectify that mistake. Actually, post 646 is waiting in drafts, as well. So, 646 will show up as 660.
What happens when we're sick and our minds can't functioning up to snuff? We make mistakes.
As this post was written several days ago and saved in drafts while I was unwell, my think tank was not up to snuff. If you read it before I have time to correct a slew of mistakes, please accept my apology in advance of the editing process that is most assuredly needed. With that said, let's see where my train of thought was headed earlier this week:
If we can clear mental or emotional confusion from the air, all around, a shared sense of solution seeking calmness eases our way toward being on the same page. When no one feels angry, tug of war is less likely to shape up, even though several levels of emotional development exist within the family. In short, parents need to ask themselves this vital question: How often do you expect a young child to understand a concept that's beyond his developmental level of comprehension? Example? We're late! Late for what? Does a young child have any concept of time? Can he even tell time? Or how about ... We can't afford it. What? Of course we can! Just open your wallet and take out your magic plastic card! See what I mean about simplifying your process to match inexperience, looking up to you, believing you to be Oz, whose kiss makes every owy better?
Okay ... Ready or not, let's shift gears toward retraining our brains in hopes of achieving a child whisperer's long range goals at home :)
So where we're we? Oh yes ... We were contemplating this question:
Want to retrain your brain to become a child whisperer?
If you answered yes ...
Check out insights, such as these:
INSIGHT ONE:
Set a LONG range goal to create an emotional environment where positive role modeling takes place consciously, meaning that heightened levels of patience feel... natural to the adult brain that is coaching a child to parrot open minded thinking, speaking and LISTENING skills :)
INSIGHT TWO:
What happens when we're sick and our minds can't functioning up to snuff? We make mistakes.
As this post was written several days ago and saved in drafts while I was unwell, my think tank was not up to snuff. If you read it before I have time to correct a slew of mistakes, please accept my apology in advance of the editing process that is most assuredly needed. With that said, let's see where my train of thought was headed earlier this week:
If we can clear mental or emotional confusion from the air, all around, a shared sense of solution seeking calmness eases our way toward being on the same page. When no one feels angry, tug of war is less likely to shape up, even though several levels of emotional development exist within the family. In short, parents need to ask themselves this vital question: How often do you expect a young child to understand a concept that's beyond his developmental level of comprehension? Example? We're late! Late for what? Does a young child have any concept of time? Can he even tell time? Or how about ... We can't afford it. What? Of course we can! Just open your wallet and take out your magic plastic card! See what I mean about simplifying your process to match inexperience, looking up to you, believing you to be Oz, whose kiss makes every owy better?
Okay ... Ready or not, let's shift gears toward retraining our brains in hopes of achieving a child whisperer's long range goals at home :)
So where we're we? Oh yes ... We were contemplating this question:
Want to retrain your brain to become a child whisperer?
If you answered yes ...
Check out insights, such as these:
INSIGHT ONE:
Set a LONG range goal to create an emotional environment where positive role modeling takes place consciously, meaning that heightened levels of patience feel... natural to the adult brain that is coaching a child to parrot open minded thinking, speaking and LISTENING skills :)
INSIGHT TWO:
Know that during conflict resolution preschoolers instinctively sense seven charismatic strengths:
Calm, level headed common sense
Self confidence
Patience
Positively focused generosity of spirit
Inner peace
Mutual respect (Suggesting consideration for their well fare equals that of your own)
A healthy dollop of good humored creativity (inventiveness, ingenuity, most especially, eye-rolling corn). I mean, whose brain apt more to learn ... a child who's giggling or laughing? :)
Tall order?
That's why you need a plan
INSIGHT THREE:
INSIGHT THREE:
When families embrace problem-solving plans, tension produced by conflict decreases all around. Once tension is calmed, attitudes embracing the concept of resolving conflicts by way of win-win have countless opportunities to develop in your home
BTW win-win does not mean everyone gets an equal vote ... Parents are leaders ... Positively focused leaders ... Positive focus is the crux of win-win's success in terms of developing the concept of generosity of spirit as the future unfolds. As human existence has evolved into a more complicated fashion of living then that of lower animal life, we are given eighteen years to raise a child. Now, compare that with six weeks in which a kitten learns to be in readiness to leave its mom ... Pups take longer ... Show a pup kitty litter and watch it poop up your persian rug! Eighteen years ... Means relax in terms of adult reactions and mature behaviors that you're attempting to 'push' into young minds ... prematurely.
If asked why most of my problem solving plans are reduced to three steps I'd respond:
BTW win-win does not mean everyone gets an equal vote ... Parents are leaders ... Positively focused leaders ... Positive focus is the crux of win-win's success in terms of developing the concept of generosity of spirit as the future unfolds. As human existence has evolved into a more complicated fashion of living then that of lower animal life, we are given eighteen years to raise a child. Now, compare that with six weeks in which a kitten learns to be in readiness to leave its mom ... Pups take longer ... Show a pup kitty litter and watch it poop up your persian rug! Eighteen years ... Means relax in terms of adult reactions and mature behaviors that you're attempting to 'push' into young minds ... prematurely.
If asked why most of my problem solving plans are reduced to three steps I'd respond:
During moments fraught with conflict the mind tenses with emotion
Emotion minimizes logic
A mind, tense with emotion, can't remember more than three steps :)
If you find that employing all seven strengths during tense moments fraught with conflict proves difficult, please advance to The Three Step Sanity Saving Problem Solving Plan found in STEP TWO :)
INSIGHT FOUR:
Whenever problem solving proves necessary, rely upon a three step plan ... simple enough for a frustrated adult to explain to a four year old, whose cognitive skills develop by digesting one step at a time. How do I know this to be true? While my youngest son watched from the sidelines, his mother's mind continued to work aloud at refining this untried plan with his older brothers. At that time I believed a four year old mind too young to understand that which his brothers absorbed. Then one day, much to my delighted surprise, I found my assumption wrong. If asked how I knew, for a fact, that my four year old's attentive mind had been digesting every morsel fed to his brothers, I'd reply: I listened to him outline the plan for his friend!! That story will follow in the aftermath of this brief explanation of our plan:
Our Family's Three-Step-Sanity-Saving-Problem-Solving Plan :) :)
Step one: Calmly state the problem
Step two: Confidently determine a rule
Step three: Consistently state fitting logical or natural consequence that follows when this rule is broken
In case I forget, please remind me and aforementioned story will happily be sent, soon :)
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