Added depth of insight to post 653 ... from dark to bright
(Rather than referring you back, here is greater part of post revised :)
You've often heard me say the mind has two sides ... dark and bright
Having spent more than five minutes in the company of a brain such as mine, can you tell when the dark side of my mind grabs control over the bright side ... which thank goodness sparkles strongly and naturally, most often, because that's who I know myself to be at my core?
I wonder if you realize that my strength of spirit guides and adjusts my decision making machine? I wonder if that's true of you? Or if after airing your thoughts, does your inner strength wain and your cockles rankle if others disagree? In truth fess up ... How would your family suggest that your think tank reacts when conflict gets your dander up at home? Would your family view your level of reactiveness as emoting: You're with me or against me ... no questions asked, no buts about it ... it's my way or the highway; meaning that all attempts at discussion cycle round, same old, same old, suggesting that conflicts remain unresolved; then when years of discussions, fraught with frustration, go no place that feels good to anyone involved, you feel shocked when last straws break the camel's back. If this pattern sounds familiar to your family, do you realize how often we fail to treat family—when tension, arising from conflict gets too hot to handle—as respectfully as we handle conflict with beloved friends? When in the heat of conflict, who in your family flings insulting judgements around? Which members of your family are afraid to inflame the wrath of your anger? If yes-men man your support system, what may be wrong with that bigger picture?
Suggestion: Please take out a mirror. Who do you see? Manipulative Mad Men, Yes-man or Voice of spirit, challenging conflict to resolve by way of positively focused methodology, embracing the concept of Win-Win?
BTW—WinWin does not mean 50/50. Defined with utter simplicity...
*WinWin means mutual respect does not get lost in the shuffle.
Here's an insight not posed in my blog—as of yet. This insight is the reason why I've chosen to reference post 653, spotlighting Dark vs Bright:
*When working to deepen your sense of awareness, please consider the frequency with which attitude and choice are one and the same.
For example, let's consider combative vs fearful attitudes: During conflict how quickly does tension cause your mind to darken with anger? Or quake with fear? Does your reaction to conflict change depending upon whom the conflict is with?
*Resentful attitudes cause us to drag our feet.
*Angry attitudes cause us to gear up for battle, reducing listening skills.
*Fearful attitudes cause self confidence to implode.
*Resentful, angry, fearful attitudes heighten tension
Imploding self confidence proves costly when decisions concerning your welfare or the welfare of those you love are under serious consideration.
*If you agree that it's wise to consider thoughts that may expand on your own then common sense suggests that erupting disagreement need not cause the boldness or calmness of one's spirit to fold.
I wonder if you can see why my awareness of harboring a junk drawer inside my brain separates me from most others who have no clue that inability to tolerate tension, often produced by inner conflict, ultimately wrecks our most vital relationships?
Rather than splaying thoughts like this around:
Look what you're doing to me?
You're making my hair fall out!
I can't sleep because of you!
You're making me crazy!
All statements made by—victims
I take time out to question whether my junk drawer opens with certain people too quickly.
I also find it helpful to remind myself that ...
*Every victim needs a villain to blame for one's pain ...
*Each time my junk drawer flies open, ghosts from the past suck at my most confident strengths till it's plain to see my spirit collapse.
*Upon realizing that my larger-than-life spirit felt compressed within a narrow space each time specific individuals made their needs known to me, my attitude said: Hey! What's up with that? With that conscious awareness, I began to question the good health of certain relationships, which I'd considered close.
Do you remember my writing about close vs
*Once conscious awareness grabs on to clarity, an attitude shift within my think tank empowers me as a whole to close my junk drawer, which raises my self confidence, which lessens my sense of inner conflict, which lessens tension, which lightens my mood, which allows me to think clearly enough to disenfranchise the presence of any individual from sucking the strength of my spirit dry. Whew!
Attitudes, like choices are not written in stone, unless you've no clue that:
*Closed mind sets make a trampoline of your brain.
Thank goodness my spirit's thirst for solution-seeking knowledge is never quenched. If asked which came first, the chicken or the egg? I reply who knows? Not me. What I do know for certain is this:
Mind over matter is what matters most, meaning that the good health of my spirit is determined by the bent of my mind, and the bent of my mind is determined by attitudes that run the spectrum from darkly narrowed to brightly expanded when considering view points other than my own ... most especially when family conflict appears to be closing in on last straws.
Like the sun energizing the earth
Mindful streams of positive thoughts inject my spirit
With bright beams of energetic strength
Emanating from within my core...
Permeating my brain with healthy thoughts ...
And with lust for the best life has to offer pulsing through my blood
I am responsible for getting that junk drawer inside my mind
To close up shop, again and again
Why?
Because it tends to open when I get confused ...
And by leaving it unattended
Confusion grows more severe
Knowing that junk drawer has a tricky lock
I ask for help
And each time confusion clears and that junk drawer is closed good and tight
My mind is open to absorb healthy schools of thought
Resultant of healthy thought
Vulnerability vanishes
Allowing me to experience
The thrill of believing myself not at all invisible but honestly
Invincible ... until ...
Something pokes at a dark spot
Causing that junk drawer to fly open ... yet again
And my self confidence slips into the murky past until
My spirit succeeds in freeing its energizing strength
Which inspires me to climb up that ladder of self esteem
Where rungs, made of insights
Spotlight solid beliefs that inject my mind
With bright thoughts, highlighting character traits
I've worked to acquire
And as hard won acquired traits, along with insight into deeper truths
Lift my self esteem to greater heights
I manage to shut that junk drawer, whenever necessary ...
Whew!
Being a person, recovering from trauma ...
Most especially trauma only partially recalled ...
Can feel as thorny as a rose garden ...
Which no one promised me
So I had to plant one for myself
And every now and then
I need to rid my mind of weeds
That tend to pop up quick as a Jack-in-the-box
So if I ask lots of questions
Please know that I'm looking to
Relaxing my mind amidst the flowers
Which grew from a dreamscape within a young girl's mind
Into the reality of the expansive attitudes that I choose as my own, today :)
And as this, my friends, is what is known as
Stream of consciousness describing the human condition ...
As I know it ...
All I can say—in addition to—oy vey—is this:
When it comes to reconditioning my mind
Your friend, Annie, will not stay stuck in a dark spot
Where insecurity looms tall, over all
For very long, ever again :)
Gosh, when sitting down to write, today
I'd no clue that insights were about to pop out
Non stop, like pop corn!
So, what came first?
Strength of spirit
Or insights offering clarity of thought
Leading to positively focused attitudes?
As I know what I think after reading this post ...
I'd love to hear your take ...
Comment box always eager to be fed ...
So here's today's riddle:
Which rules over all …
Strength of spirit or Bright side of your mind or Junk drawer?
Hint: Check attitude before responding, because, as always, the choice is yours …
So what do you most often choose to rule over all?
Spirit? Mind? Junk?
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