Having simplified PART 9 AND 10, my mind feels clearly centered. Peaceful.
How great would it be if complexities, which throw relationships off center, could be retuned as simply as one, two, three ...
Well, in truth—I didn't just zip through that editing process.
First I reconsidered what I'd meant to convey.
Then upon centering my mind on what I'd meant to say, the story line got back on track.
In short I lost control over the direction of the story, because I'd lost control over the direction of my mind.
A mind deep in thought tends to switch tracks and wander off onto tangents.
Knowing that to be classically true, perhaps the good health of our relationships depends upon both people's minds centering on the most pressing problem at hand. In this way, discussions are less likely to boil over into issues, unresolved from the past. Unfortunately, deeper issues arise subliminally, and not until both parties are clear as to what 'yesterday's issue' is can today's problems be solved.
And begging your indulgence, this particular tangent is not a tangent at all, because—my main reason for writing this blog is to show you how easily our minds are confused when we switch back and forth between positively focused and defensively focused tracks. This is especially true when one mind works to track clarity while another clings to denial, as in—there's nothing wrong with me—it's all you.
In order for two heads to be better than one, both brains must stay tuned to the same channel or the underlying power struggle will arise and get the upper hand.
Unfortunately, the mind's ability to stay on track is undermined by emotional static.
A mind that floods with static (anxiety or anger), can't hear what the speaker is clearly stating. If, during heated moments, two minds ignite simultaneously, step back, it's cannon booming time!
Once clarity is lost, discussions spin dizzily into 'whose on first', and two people end up in a dark, lonely place that neither had meant to go.
Since emotional static attacks the smartest of minds, it seems wise to reclaim one's sense of centeredness as soon as confusion hits.
But here's the rub: Defensive reactions are autonomic. So how can we silence our fight/freeze/flee alarms?
If you think time out is just for kids, I hope you'll think again. Time out is meant to clear emotional static out of every person's mind.
Hmmm—I'm feeling an urge to reveal a detail that was not supposed to surface until Annie is grown and raising a family of her own. When that story unfolds, Annie will need to solve problems calmly. And in order to focus her mind on solution seeking clarity , she'll formulate a ...
Three-Step-Sanity-Saving-Problem-solving Plan
As this plan will not shape up in Annie's mind for quite a while, I'll leave you to ponder this thought for today:
Centeredness is key to accepting the sum of one's parts as a whole ...
If centeredness opposes denial, and if Annie is in denial, then some aspect of Annie's self esteem must be in need of repair ...
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