I sent a question into cyberspace and was glad to have received two comments in return. I've found that decisions, based in knowledge, are more likely to get us where we each need to go.
When I can't seem to get to where I want to go, I ask if what I want may be different from what I need.
When all I wanted was to please my loved ones, I knocked myself out.
If a relationship is to strike a happy medium, people need to meet halfway in terms of accepting responsibility for what keeps going south.
Before I could strike a happy medium within myself, my idea of what made me happy was in need of change.
As pleasing all of the people all of the time proved impossible, my priorities were in need of change, as well.
Though I can not change others, there's lots I can change about me.
If I want to strike a happy medium within myself, and if the only person I can change is me, then here's how my priority changed: I stopped seeking a fleeting happy medium with others and began to work at instilling a sense of lasting peace within myself.
Once I stopped stretching too far, my spirit strengthened, and I no longer wore out.
As I learned with whom to seek a happy medium, I gained a peacefulmedium within myself.
Though my desire to share insight into positive change remains strong, experience suggests that the key to unlocking resistance opens from within.
So picture this: Picture two sides of my mind, wrestling behind a locked door. One side says I need to please others to feel safe. The other says 'we' need a place of peace in which to rest and figure out how to get out of this crazy maze.
Which side is based in common sense? Which side will assume control over the other? I guess that depends on how often I'll allow myself to wander blindly down the wearing out path.
Stretching beyond my last reserves of energy to serve others is not loving, it's enabling.
Once I've enabled another, what I give will be taken for granted. Eventually, the enabled will demonstrate resentment when I run out of steam and can't give my all, anymore.
In order for a happy medium to be struck, humility wins over each person's need to be right.
A person who needs to be right will tune out any sign of knowledge that proves his or her reasoning 'off'.
Light saber for today: I'm as eager as ever to impart insight into change when minds are open to meeting me half way. Otherwise, positive focus directs me toward patience.
Right now, I'm being patient with whatever part of my mind is resistant to moving forward.
Ooohhmmmm...
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