Do you know why it’s hard work to ‘change your mind’? Because ‘mind sets’ shape up, subconsciously, based in yesteryear's experiences. When yesterday's mind sets no longer match today's reality, it's not uncommon for misperception to generate negative tension between people whose thoughts had once travelled along the same wave length.
As prolonged states of conflict prove painful, I work to identify fearful attitudes and negative mind sets that depress my energy source—especially when awareness suggests that a new day has dawned, and the sun is shining brightly over those who feel less traumatized and thus, more likely to rejoice than is true of me.
If, following a devastating loss, it’s our hope to chase black clouds away then we may need to en-courage old mind sets to go through a step-by-step process, whereby irreversible changes are accepted with less grumbling, more grace. What kinds of changes must we accept? Any change that proves to be beyond our control. Changes, beyond our control, may follow in the wake of divorce, incurable illness, or the aging process. Some of these changes mystify our minds. Take this question concerning change for example:
Why is every living thing born to work hard and strive toward success in many of life’s endeavors—just to die?
Why is every living thing born to work hard and strive toward success in many of life’s endeavors—just to die?
Though much about life does not seem just, and much does not seem to make sense—much must be accepted for whatever it is until the learning curve of human understanding moves forward on the time line and darkness lifts as each next insight dawns. If you ask why it's wise to keep an open mind during any process of change, I'd reply:
We never know when each next insight will dawn.
So whenever change makes me feel like I've entered a hazy maze, you'll watch me retrace my footprints in hopes of clarifying something that I may have misperceived as a child. In short, I consciously work to neutralize old mind sets, which may have shaped up during life's darkest times.
Each time a new insight dawns, a piece of that hazy maze, which could not have been fathomed, yesterday, clarifies, today. And if you ever feel lost in a maze that just won't quit, this insight may help to lessen frustration:
It’s common for mindsets to process through change two steps forward, one back, day by day.
As one change leads to another, change never stops. If change never stops then it seems wise to identify subconscious mindsets (attitudes), which close my conscious mind to choices that may sweeten life, all around.
As you watch me grow from a child into a adult, you'll come to see the reasons why a common sensical, step-by-step approach to life opened my mind to formulating experimental, problem-solving PLANS over the expanse of many years. Then, as you watch each step of each PLAN shape up within the creative center of my conscious mind, you'll see me achieve piecemeal success with problems that I've not yet come to wholly understand. In short ... as long as the subconscious portion of my brain keeps secrets from my conscious awareness ...
I'll remain blind to the secret partnership that exists between my power of intuition and nentak blocks that prove defensive in nature.
As put downs and the blame game play no part in the success of these PLANS (which aim at creating change for the better for everyone involved), any leadership role that I agree to accept will not have been inherited, assumed or usurped. Why not? Because the ultimate success of every experimental plan is based in this fact: Leadership is earned by way of feeling knowledgeable, compassionate and self disciplined—under fire.
As I learn to place my faith in the creative, solution-seeking portion of my brain, my focus will choose to ignore any put down that may be cast my way by those who have no clue that their personal sense of safety depends upon conjuring up put downs that keep The Blame Game alive.
As you watch my vulnerabilities transform into positively focused, purposeful inner strengths, you'll see the spongy side of my mind transform into a trampoline—meaning that I'll develop the ability to bounce up from a shot at my character without diving for cover or shooting back.
In short, I no longer engage in discussions where kettles that boil over call hot pots black. As you shall see—once I came to understand the subconscious workings of the human brain (which kept my sense of clarity captive within a hazy maze), much of what had confounded my connection to logic began to make sense. Bottom line ...
As mental clarity continues to develop so does a person's buoyant sense of self confident leadership skills.
As you watch my vulnerabilities transform into positively focused, purposeful inner strengths, you'll see the spongy side of my mind transform into a trampoline—meaning that I'll develop the ability to bounce up from a shot at my character without diving for cover or shooting back.
In short, I no longer engage in discussions where kettles that boil over call hot pots black. As you shall see—once I came to understand the subconscious workings of the human brain (which kept my sense of clarity captive within a hazy maze), much of what had confounded my connection to logic began to make sense. Bottom line ...
As mental clarity continues to develop so does a person's buoyant sense of self confident leadership skills.
To my way of thinking, self-confident leadership skills develop, just like everything else—step by step. So if you hope to see a positively focused, solution seeker staring out from within your mirror then guess which character trait may be in need of strength training? Humility, which must be trained to gain more muscle in your brain than ego—for this reason:
Just as with courage, patience, self control, and positive focus ... the on-going development of humility, concerning personal vulnerabilities, is a personal strength.
Just as with courage, patience, self control, and positive focus ... the on-going development of humility, concerning personal vulnerabilities, is a personal strength.
If asked, how does one en-courage humility to muscle up and pin ego to the mat, I'd reply:
Choose to walk a path where your powers of reflection expect to identify your own mistakes. With courage, patience, self control, positive focus and humility intact, your never give up attitude accepts failures as experiments that blow up in your face until such time as success is realized, at last.
Upon reminding myself that each new experience is an experiment, I accept the fact that success is sometimes mine and sometimes not. And as my experiments tend to meet with success, much more often than not, my faith in my history rings true.
Eventually, reflection pinpoints that which makes sense to repeat and that which may be in need of retreat so as to rethink need for change. And in this way do I neutralize yesterday's frustration by changing those aspects my life, which have caused my spirit to fly at half mast, for too long.
Upon reminding myself that each new experience is an experiment, I accept the fact that success is sometimes mine and sometimes not. And as my experiments tend to meet with success, much more often than not, my faith in my history rings true.
Eventually, reflection pinpoints that which makes sense to repeat and that which may be in need of retreat so as to rethink need for change. And in this way do I neutralize yesterday's frustration by changing those aspects my life, which have caused my spirit to fly at half mast, for too long.
In short, I work, step-by-step, to re-examine any hard boiled mind set that leaves me with egg dripping down my face—repeatedly.
If you wonder why I persist in painting pictures of the inner workings of my mind, my answer would be ...
The human brain is a complex instrument, made up of intricate parts, which at times, interact dysfunctionally.
And having learned that to be true, I offer my brain a tune up, an oil change and a lube job, from time to time, in hopes that (like my car) it will take me where I aim to go.
As you shall see, the ways in which the separate parts of the human brain are organized or disorganized or reorganized, may determine which of our perceptions, choices and decisions are based in reality or denial. In fact, here’s how this blog is a perfect example of the complex workings of your mind and mine:
The human brain is a complex instrument, made up of intricate parts, which at times, interact dysfunctionally.
And having learned that to be true, I offer my brain a tune up, an oil change and a lube job, from time to time, in hopes that (like my car) it will take me where I aim to go.
As you shall see, the ways in which the separate parts of the human brain are organized or disorganized or reorganized, may determine which of our perceptions, choices and decisions are based in reality or denial. In fact, here’s how this blog is a perfect example of the complex workings of your mind and mine:
Upon sitting down to write, I have no clue which thought will lead to the next. I just allow whatever pours out of my processor to show up on my screen. Then I edit. Again and again.
If we live our lives in that fashion—allowing whatever pops up in our brains to pour out of our mouths—we’ll continue to make decisions, based in reactions, without much reflection concetning yesterday’s mistakes. And if we march forth without creating a step-by-step approach to reshaping yesterday’s personal disasters then tomorrow’s success stories will never be realized.
If we live our lives in that fashion—allowing whatever pops up in our brains to pour out of our mouths—we’ll continue to make decisions, based in reactions, without much reflection concetning yesterday’s mistakes. And if we march forth without creating a step-by-step approach to reshaping yesterday’s personal disasters then tomorrow’s success stories will never be realized.
As you know, three year olds learn by monkey-see-monkey-do. Monkey-hear-monkey-say. Monkey-feel-monkey-react. Thank goodness, today’s little monkeys are learning to place their egos in time out, so that the presence of humility can grow toward adulthood, making self disciplined choices, more often, tomorrow, than had been true during childhood.
Now, if Big Monkeys choose to adhere to the same self disciplined techniques that they hope little monkeys will mimic then logical plans for transforming family disasters into success stories might pop out of our mouths more often than not. Self confident leaders do more than teach respect. Self confident leaders are respectful of those who follow in their footsteps..
At all ages, transforming dark minded 'tantrums' into sunny, cooperative attitudes requires thought provoking work.
At all ages, transforming dark minded 'tantrums' into sunny, cooperative attitudes requires thought provoking work.
And ... btw
Cooperative attitudes are based in positively focused mind sets.
Cooperative attitudes are based in positively focused mind sets.
As an adult, raising children of my own, I’d felt personal need to come up with a savings plan. Not to save money. We had a savings account for that. I needed a plan to save my sanity. After absorbing a gazillion parenting books, a simple, step-by-step plan began to formulate inside my mind. Not a12 step plan. Not a 7 step plan. But a three step plan. Why three steps? Because once we’re about to lose our sanity, it’s impossible for our minds to hold on to more than three simple thoughts.
As you may remember, I began to call the first in this series of simple plans—
THE THREE STEP, PROBLEM SOLVING, SANITY SAVING PLAN.
If you’d like to know more about each of these plans (or anything else about which I choose to write), the comment box is always hungry and waiting to be fed
As for me, I feel the storytelling part of my brain gearing up to tell you more about myself when I was three and tragedy tortured my family, causing confounding questions to pile up inside my head faster than a young, undeveloped processor could think anything, through and through. And as misperceived beliefs about myself invaded my sense of inner peace with undeserved guilt, subconscious mindsets, trembling with unprocessed fear, filtered into my conscious thoughts until the on-going development of my self image felt so conflicted that inner conflict caused lots of problems to hatch, like ducklings that did not line up, all in a row …
Once TWINKLE TWINKLE LITTLE STAR part 13 shows up on your screen, you'll see what takes place when fearful imagination creates emotional static, which filters into the conscious portion of our minds, thus disrupting clarity of thought. So okay … let’s begin to exorcise some ancient ghosts, which, remaining too hazy to identify, had unknowingly plagued the frightened side of my imaginative mind for most of my life …
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