Sunday, July 12, 2020

3 AFTER SEVERAL FAMILY DISCUSSIONS, A PLAN HAS COME TOGETHER

Sooo—how do Will and I feel about staying with David in an air bnb during our first week in Houston before Will moves into the hotel during my hospitalization?  We are totally on board.  And here is why that’s true—It means so much to my sense of inner peace to know that our family has developed the ability to resolve conflicts bound to arise during long lasting crises (compounded by world crises) as we maintain a balanced awareness of our respect for each other’s intelligence, emotional reactions, flexibility of thought, and most of all, the depths of our love for one another, all of which combined has carried us through trying times over each of our lifetimes.

While raising our family, Will and I devoted every day toward modeling and maintaining a heightened sense of family values, which includes conversing respectfully, most especially during times of on-going strife (and I wonder how many families are conscious of taming tempers when fear, frustration or anger arises). And now, tis time to get off my soapbox so as to rest my mind, which, feeling relieved of conflict, has readied itself to relax, hopefully for the rest of today, knowing that we five are moving forward, abreast, toward whatever unknown the immediate future holds in store for us, one and all.

God!  Am I glad that David’s best friend, Adam, turned us onto Mayo just as these past seven months of roller coaster riding picked up steam once the sarcoma was correctly diagnosed following a year of appointments in doctors’ offices, where not one had thought out of the box so as to follow up my main symptom of chest pain on the right side with a simple chest X-ray—talk about need to defuse frustration with human imperfection in favor of verbally expressing our dismay concerning lack of thoroughness to my internist once her return from months of extended maternity leave freed Will’s mind and mine to move forward calmly and proactively as we had programmed ourselves to follow the same guidelines, which had been set in place for our sons concerning focusing the wide angled lens of our thought processors upon need to take one step at a time toward our hopes for a successful surgery, which, having been scheduled, now points our flashlight of insight toward spotlighting the strengths of our family’s united front as, together, we approach the end of this tunnel, which would have been a very dark and scary place had I felt need to wander through this last year on my own.

Whenever I have reason to take mental stock of the man I married, 54 years ago, I give thanks for Will, who, along with me, nurtured three little boys to grow up to be this trio of men, upon whose host of inner strengths we’ve come to depend at times when their emotional support buoys our spirits, which otherwise might falter from the strain of reining in emotions of overwhelming proportions.  And thus does my heart overflow with a peaceful sense of gratitude for the circle of love that flows so naturally amongst us through thick and thin.

And now that my present state of mind is in need of a rest, I’ll end today’s soliloquy by saying that no sooner did David float his revised plan past Will, Barry, Steven and me, we four agreed that staying in an air bnb until the day of my surgery seemed like a no brainer, so that, once again, open minded flexibility, which has been an integral part of our family’s decision-making process, proves that brainstorming, respectfully,  paves our way toward conflict resolution once everyone’s comfort level has been seriously taken into account.

BTW, David is most familiar with air bnb’s being that for about two years, he’d rented his place out, from time to time, suggesting he knows what it takes to receive a five star rating.  And as our start date begins three days before we fly into Houston, hopefully, David’s thoroughness in brainstorming with his brothers, offers us a place to quarantine safely, together, during the week leading up to my surgery.  As to food, that delivery has also been preplanned.

And now, knowing that our travel plan, which has been shaping up over these last few days, has considered everyone’s thoughts, ideas and peace of mind, I’ll quiet my mind and think about pretty much nothing for the remainder of today.  (Wish me luck with that๐Ÿ™ƒ).

Hoping your day is going well—
Over and out for awhile.
๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿป‍♀️๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒป๐Ÿ˜ทAnnie

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